I’m working on my personal vision at the moment, starting with increasing my time spent on my side business in health & nutrition, Lighted Wellness. I’ll totally admit that I was super emotional last week. I slept maybe two hours on election night, followed by a few more uncomfortable sleepless nights full of anxiety and fear for what is to come… and then I remembered (thanks mostly to my awesome mom) that we have a choice every single day. We can live in the fear or we can live in the light. Let me explain.
If you’ve read May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein, she describes FEAR as False Evidence Appearing Real. In my case, I’ve been letting my mind run away with nightmare scenerios of how this election will change our country over the next four years. As I stood watching it last week, surrounded by my flight attendant friends whom all have ties to other countries and cultures, I couldn’t stop the negativity and fear pulsing through my brain. Collectively, we were all feeling a bit fearful of what was to come. As a proud Hispanic Woman, I couldn’t feel less represented by this man. So what now, since I refuse to live my life in fear and I’m honestly exhausted from it all?
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU LOVE
As flight attendants, we have the great privilege to travel the world and experience firsthand many unique and incredible cultures. As such, we can all agree that we are ridiculously lucky to have been born in America. We have options here of creating any life we aspire to have, no matter where we might have lived while growing up, our political party, or the financial situation of our families. While we definitely have our issues here in the USA, I am reminding myself of how many wonderful things we have here as well. For example, the many cultures of this country vary as much as our scenery and are beautiful to see and experience. I love that I have friends here from all over the world, and they each bring me a new and beautiful perspective on life. I love that I can vote. I love that I am able to voice my opinions openly without fear. No matter how many countries I visit, I am always happy to come home to my country.
No matter what happens in our politics or elsewhere, we can all find something to be grateful for. I am commited to setting my fears aside now, because I cannot stand to dwell within this negativity any longer. Besides, there’s so much to be grateful for! I’m grateful for the health I have and the relationships in my life. I’m grateful for my hilarious dog, Leo. On a more personal level, I am grateful to have met my husband (who hails from the beautiful country of Mexico) and to have been raised by my incredibly awesome mom and grandparents. In regards to my husband, his own journey to the USA through hard work and never giving up has always inspired me to go for more in life. His honesty, loyalty and compassion helped me learn how to love and trust a man again. Once extremely guarded, broken, and terrible at relationships, I learned how to have my first healthy one through great communication and a real commitment to each other. (Please don’t read that to say I think we are perfect and never have our issues to work through, because any real relationship does and will!) Chances are, you have something to be grateful for too.
FUEL YOUR ENVIRONMENT
I fueled my post-election environment with CNN on the background, NPR on my iTunes Radio, and lots of doomsday scenerio articles on Facebook. After listening to one of my favorite NPR programs, Latino USA, this past Saturday, I have decided to stop doing this to myself. I am not helping the situation by dwelling in the pain it has caused me and millions of others. In this particular episode, listeners were asked to call in with their feelings after the election. I cried as I heard countless callers discuss their fears around deportation and their family members, spouses, friends, teachers, etc. So here is what I will do: I will continue helping my friends and anyone curious to know how the citizenship process works here, since my husband and I have gone through it. I will donate to organizations that have resources to help immigrants, women, and refugees. I’ll continue being warm and inviting to the people I meet here from other countries, who might be nervous about how they will be received.
I will now fuel my environment with the things that bring me joy, inspire me to be a better person, and aide in my spiritual growth.
LEAD YOUR OWN FUTURE
So back to my positive vision. I’m creating my vision aside from whatever happens with our politics. I’m creating my vision based on my goal of living my happiest and most fulfilled life. I’m strategizing now for my best chapter yet. As a final thought, I leave you with this quote by Henri Nouwen:
Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.
Love & Light,